The Pastoral Hug

Posted: July 5, 2007 in Personal Reflections

I’m not much of a “touchy-feely” kind of guy.  I’m not much of a “hugger.”  I don’t mind hugging the ladies who are in their senior years (not high school…I mean like senior citizens…and no offense if I’ve hugged you and you don’t fit into that category), but in the main…I just don’t hug.  It is probably the cold upbringing I had where we grew up in a non-touchy-feely home devoid of love and affection (that’s a joke…my family reads the blog).

As a Pastor, I sometimes feel insecure about the lack of hugs I extend to others.  I really like others.  Maybe I should hug more often?  Maybe I would be a better pastor if I give out more hugs?  But, what do you do with the guys?  Do I really want to hug guys?  No…not really.  And if I don’t hug guys and only hug their wives, is that weird?  Seems wierd.  I once hug a Bosnian couple we were helping move into the area.  They were Muslims.  I gave him a hug.  Then I gave his wife a hug (a very appropriate American hug).  The gasp I heard from her family and friends let me know that in their culture, men don’t hug women.  Note to self…don’t hug a married muslim woman…or any muslim woman for that matter (unless she is really cute…and I don’t mind being BEHEADED!).  So…the non-hugging approach has just been easier.

Well…not anymore!!!!!  Thanks to this instructional video, I’m about to have a HUGFEST galore!  Not only can I hug on the ladies (I know you all have been waiting) … I now have some clear guidelines on how to hug the men!  So, especially if you are a male friend of mine…watch this instructional video, and prepare to be hugged!

  1. Voice in the Wilderness says:


    I’m in.

  2. Clarence says:

    Thats a great video, its made the rounds over the past few weeks.

    I would have loved to been a fly on the wall with your muslim hug. Ooops… but you have to remember the culture you’re dealing with, they are ready to kill a politician over him touching the hand of another woman!!!

    On a personal and serious note… my first church (also the church Pete and Elvia went to) was all about the hug. The church I’m at now is all about the hand shake. I think there is a good medium. Do you really need to hug that guy you see three times a week? I know I felt very welcomed by you at our last visit to LSC, because when you saw me you smiled and greeted me with a big man hug.

    So I say hug more! Is it a bad thing to be known as the preacher that hugs you every time you see him?

  3. The Bishop says:

    i’m shocked at such behavior. It would never be allowed in my home. Thank goodness my children were raised as cold, unemotional clods. That’s a proper upbringing.

  4. Lori says:

    (((((((consider yourself hugged lol))))))))))

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