New Disciplinary Code Entering Barrington Household

Posted: July 2, 2008 in Family, Uncategorized
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Kelly and I had a family meeting last night to introduce a new disciplinary code for our three children.  We have introduced them to:  1) the rules/codes; 2) the allowance; 3) the consequences of breaking the rules…which includes the “Mom & Dad going out to eat Jar.”  I typed up and handed out to each of my kids the following for them to memorize and tape to their bedroom wall:


  1. If you turn it on, you must turn it off  (e.g., lights, T.V., PlayStation, Wii, etc.).
  2. If you get it out, put it back (e.g., toys, clothes, food, dishes, etc.).
  3. You shall not be unkind to your brother(s) or sister verbally or physically.
  4. You are entitled to one request and one rebuttal/response. After that you must stop asking.
  5. There will be no negativity/whining/complaining.
  6. Only dirty clothes go into the dirty clothes hamper.
  7. Do not talk back or be disrespectful to your parents.
  8. Do your chores.


 Each of you will get a base allowance of $2.00 per week.  In addition, you will receive $.25 per each year of your life.  That would mean each week you would receive the following:

  •            Isaac:  $2.00 + $3.00 = $5.00
  •           Caleb: $2.00 + $2.00 = $4.00
  •           Alex:   $2.00 + $1.50 = $3.50

 With this money, we expect you to tithe (10%), save a portion (we recommend another 10%), and have available at all times at least $2.00 in your account.


 When you break one of the house codes, you must put $.25 in the “Mom & Dad’s Going Out to Eat” jar. 

 Because this is new, in the month of July you will receive ONE warning prior to being penalized.  Beginning August 1st, you will no longer be given any warnings and you will be charged $.25 per infraction.

So…Kelly and I are geared up and ready.  I just hope Caleb won’t have to go to the bank or Check N’ to Cash to get a small business loan 🙂

  1. David Wilson says:

    You sure you didn’t have a lawyer draft that up? Sounds pretty air-tight.

  2. Ann says:

    What a great idea! Do you have the patent on this or are we free to use it? Is this something you will share during the attraction series coming up? I’m sure there are many parents out there who could use some practical suggestions like this. .

  3. Buffy says:

    If you don’t mind, Tate and I might just have to borrow these! Sounds pretty good to me!

  4. Dana says:

    Thank you for posting this, although I’m curious about rule #6. Are you finding things other than dirty clothes in your hampers?

    Would you also consider posting your chore list? We might also implement your codes here!

  5. Tina says:

    I love it! I wonder if this will work with Andrew???

  6. Melissa says:

    $5 a week for an almost teenager? Are you endoctrining him into Ramseyism already, Sam?!

  7. The Bishop says:

    Suggested Rule # 9. You will pay half your cost to the next Disneyworld trip.

    And possibly Rule #10. You will wash your grandpa’s cars during the summer solstice.

    Wait a minute. This is how Phariseeism got started. Sorry.

  8. alex says:

    You might want to specify Line #2 under “House Codes.” {If you get it out, put it back (e.g., toys, clothes, food, dishes, etc.)} Are you refering to uneaten food or food left out in the kitchen? Cause I know if it were me when I was a kid, my smart-mouth answer would be, “So after we get done eating, are we suppose to regurgitate our food and ‘put it back’?” Just a thought.

  9. Lorinda says:

    The allowance could get expensive as they get older. Do you think this would work for a 3yo.

  10. Andrew says:

    No this wont work, but thanks anyways for the idea Sam

  11. scmiller says:

    I hope you post later on the creative loopholes your offspring find in this “air tight” list. It is amazing what happens when bright, creative kids are challenged to one up mom and dad.

    My wife’s sister came up with a great way to resolve arguments between my niece and nephew. If they got into a spat, they had to sit down together, draft a written statement of the incident and both sign it before they could get up. It worked for a while until the day they said “done” 20 seconds after sitting down. On the paper? “Nothing Happened”

  12. Janelle says:

    What else are they finding in the dirty clothes hampers???? I have three kids, I can tell ya! Let’s see… toys, trash, doll clothes and, most annoying, CLEAN clothes.

    It was less than a week ago I had the laundry talk with mine. “At the end of the week I want to see no more than 7 bottoms, 7 tops, 7 pairs of underware….”

    All these rules are very close to my own. It’s kind of comforting to see that … maybe my kids aren’t monsters after all, just normal kids. 🙂

  13. […] I’ve had several ask about how the new Barrington family rules were going that I blogged about here.  I’ll let Kelly speak for herself, but it seems that we may be making some small progress […]

  14. Somerandomdude says:

    Did you hide the jar cuz they could just steal from the jar.

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