Archive for March, 2009

Allison Sweeney is off the ranch having a baby girl.  Michelle & Allie, previous two season winners, took over hosting.  I missed Allison.  She did return for final weigh in.

Nicole made it back on the ranch (boring surprise to me).  She looked good.  She had immunity at weigh in as long as she didn’t gain any weight.  SHE GAINED 5 POUNDS!!  Wow.  Felt sorry for her.  Bob attributes it to stress.

Sione has a one pound advantage because he won the boring stand on ropes with a board and balance yourself challenge.

Ron has a bleeding ulcer.  Went to hospital.

Laura gained a pound.  Tara is a polarizing figure (I really like her…it has been interesting the number of people who feel the exact opposite).  Kelly thinks it has to do with their experience in High School (interesting theory she has).  Mike lost 11 pounds (wow…go week 13).  Ron gained 3 pounds.

Nicole & Ron below yellow line.

Only drama was between Ron and Felipe (blue team turning on brown).  For the record, if you say, “You’ll be fine,” I’d assume you meant you weren’t going to vote for me too.

Nicole going home.

Zero sum game.  Nicole came back…and left.  The attempted shake up was short lived.

This is a boring post…it was a boring show.

[Kelly wants Cheetos in her Biggest Loser display case if she were on the show…cheese fries would be in mine]

Oh my goodness.  What took me so long?!  Seriously.  For months my computer has been slow, it freezes, I can’t close tabs, I’m stuck in webland, I have to keep shutting down my computer, blah, blah, blah.  This whole time I’ve been blaming my laptop!  I was so desperate I started to consider getting a Mac (I know…that’s how insane I was :-).  Ed Koczan updated the Living Stones Church website (you should see it) and my Internet Explorer was messing it up.  He said something about Firefox, so I checked into it and decided to switch!  WAY BETTER!!!   Look how fast everything is!  Nothing is freezing!  The look of these pages are even WAY BETTER!!  Wow!!  Good-bye Internet Explorer!!!

I just can’t tell you how unbelievable it looks!  Really…it just all came together yesterday and looks absolutely amazing.  You HAVE to get to Living Stones Church this morning and bring your children.  They will have a blast.  Rumor has it there is even a parade this morning. Kids Kanyon is HERE!!!!

I knew there was a reason for my resolution:

I’ve been at this church now for over 12 years.  In that time I’m not sure I have ever seen as much work, done by so many people, done with such intensity, done with such commitment, and done with such generosity.  There are volunteers here who I think have lived in this building for weeks.

It is amazing.

A good part of this church deserves a paid week’s vacation for this.  Seriously.

I’m truly speechless (and that doesn’t happen often).  I’m grateful

I’m excited for things to be completed and some well-deserved individuals to receive thanks and rest.

I’m also amazed at how many “night-owls” we have around here.  What is up with that?

Erskine Village News

Posted: March 27, 2009 in South Bend

According to Heidi Prescott’s MarketBasket column in the South Bend Tribune…the Erskine Village is getting a new tenant…


Isn’t there one in Broadmore shopping center?  Yes!  But they are going to move to Erskine Village.  Just what we all had in mind and were dreaming of!!  Yea…South-side!!!  Dollar TREE!!!!!  Any thoughts?

I wonder how much a thing of toothpaste is?

Can You Lip Sync a Sermon?

Posted: March 26, 2009 in Uncategorized

Source:  MMI blog

oops.  caught 🙂

The Chuckster Turns 60

Posted: March 25, 2009 in Family

Today, March 25th, 2009 – my dad turns 60 years old!!!!!  That is crazy.  Imagine what my grandma must feel like having a son who is 60. 🙂  So, to my dad…on his 60th birthday…HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!  (Does this blog post count as your gift?)

In all seriousness, there is a lot of negativity that surrounds fatherhood.  We live in a day and age where books and therapists make millions as they attempt to help men deal with the wounds of their soul that are in some way associated with their father:

  • Seeking the approval of their father
  • Seeking love and acceptance from their father
  • Feeling abandoned (either real or emotionally) from their father
  • Abused by their father
  • Neglected by a distracted or passive father
  • Etc. (the list can go on)

I experientially have no idea what any of this is about.  I say this with humility, but with sincere gratitude.  I have a GREAT father.  His example and behavior has protected my heart and soul from woundedness.  And although imperfect, as we all are, he has given me absolutely no handicap, because of his example, in understanding how good and great my heavenly Father is.  Thanks Dad.  I love you.  (Your grandsons wants to bet money that this might make you cry 🙂 ).

Black & Blue Teams are over!  Back to singles.  Each player gets to pick their trainer.  I don’t like this dynamic. 

I love Ron.  And I quote, “You know…my son’s 18 years old…he’s an idiot.  All 18 year olds are idiots.”  (This is the best quote from the whole season).  Ron and Mike separate. 

Helen, in response to having to pick a trainer said, “This is the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make.”  Yea…MUCH more difficult than when I THREW MY OWN DAUGHTER UNDER THE BUS!!

Biggest Loser tried to take a page from Survivor with this place pounds on people’s scale thing.  Helen & Tara got the pounds.  All the giggling.  Not cool. 

TARA IS FREAKIN’ THE MAN (I MEAN WOMAN).  With an additional 257 lbs. she totally whipped the other contestants pulling a car 1/2 mile.  Take that all of you little gigglers!  WOW!!  Tara has immunity.

Weight Loss:

  • Tara – lost 3 pounds [1.52%] (so close…one pound away from 100 lbs. for a new record)
  • Kristen – lost 8 pounds [3.04% ] (new record!! first woman to lose 100 lbs. on Biggest Loser ranch)
  • Aubrey – lost 4 pounds [2.05%] – (below the yellow line)
  • Mike – lost 6 pounds [2.22%]
  • Laura – lost 7 pounds [3.18]
  • Helen – lost 5 pounds [2.75%]
  • Sione – lost 7 pounds [2.56%] – (made it over the 100 lbs. mark)
  • Ron – lost 10 pounds – [3.06%] – (he is the only one sad…he is trying to save his son…Helen…are you watching?!)
  • Filipe – lost 4 pounds – [1.50%] – (over the 100 lbs. mark…but still below the yellow line)

Aubrey is going home.

Last week I blogged about the principle of HOMEOSTASIS which is the property of any organization (institution, relationship, organism, etc.) to long for stability, balance, sameness, status quo, etc.  The irony in regards to church is that NO church does anything great for the Kingdom of God in a state of homeostasis.  So leaders need to be very discerning in when to live in homeostasis, and when to break out and disrupt the status quo to do something great for God.

Having said that, it is important to remember that according to system theorists, a disruption of homeostasis affects every part of the system.  Think of it like a mobile.  If you pull on one end, every part of the mobile is affected, especially the opposite side

In the disruption of homeostasis you can always expect a push-back or “pull down” to occur on the other end of the system.  The opposite end is attempting to exert its efforts to bring back homeostasis.  The problem:  it never does.  It overcompensates and overreacts sending the mobile flying to the other extreme.  And there it is…a mobile going back and forth, back and forth.  This is the dynamic at work in churches and results in conflict.  Something happens that disrupts homeostasis (this could be anything from painting the nursery  to the untimely death of a leader).  The mobile (church) goes flying to one extent.  To compensate, another force in the church (e.g., the senior saints, the women’s prayer group, the staff) pulls in the opposite direction trying to balance the mobile (church).  But it doesn’t get balanced.  It goes flying the other way.  Everyone is thrown off in regards to equilibrium, people are confused, they are anxious, they are worried, they are afraid.  And when people get anxious and afraid…they do stupid things.  Good godly people, when anxious and afraid, do bad things. 

In this moment what the entire system (church) needs is a leader who is a non-anxious presence.  Who stands at the crux of the mobile and without overreacting (which is very easy to do as a leader…especially one who is afraid and nervous) to speak truth (which includes acknowledging disrupted homeostasis), vision, and clarity of purpose.  It is a difficult task, but to make it through the disrupted homeostasis, YOU NEED TO HAVE the non-anxious presence of good leaders.

I want to give a shout out to the elders at LSC.  By personality they are pretty stoic anyhow.  🙂 But I’ve never seen a better non-anxious presence in the midst of disrupted homeostasis.  I can think back on our history when MAJOR DISRUPTIONS of homeostasis occurred.  Times when I was full of anxiety, fear, and concern.  They remained constant.  They spoke truth (“Did God call us to this or not?”).  They were a non-anxious presence in the midst of the storm.  And because of it, the storm came to an end. 

If a leader acts stressed, those who are following will feel stressed (even if in reality they aren’t under stress).  If a leader acts anxious and scared, those who are following will feel anxious and scared (at best).  If a leader is angry…he/she gets cut out of the Promise Land (or at least that is what happened to Moses).

So, may your homeostasis be disrupted for great Kingdom work.  But when it is, may the Spirit empower you with eyes to see what God is doing, and faith to be totally confident in Him, to the extent that it allows you to be a non-anxious presence.